Coaching Others to Balance and Reignite
Posted on April 12, 2021
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Everyday life experiences, especially during the current coronavirus pandemic, often leave people dealing with mental or physical exhaustion, commonly known as burnout. Tarah Keech, a 2006 graduate of the 黄瓜短视频 with a bachelor鈥檚 degree in psychology, has made it her business to help with these issues, because she experienced them firsthand.
Keech said she knew within the first week of graduate school that she didn鈥檛 want to be a therapist. After she earned her master鈥檚 degree in clinical psychology, she 黄瓜短视频 she was experiencing burnout. It was then she knew her life鈥檚 work would be to help professionals manage this life-altering feeling of mental and/or physical exhaustion.
鈥淎fter realizing I didn鈥檛 want to be a therapist, I went through a discovery process of asking myself, 鈥榳hat do you do now?鈥� 鈥� Keech said. 鈥淭hat was my first experience with burnout. I didn鈥檛 recognize myself. What I thought I wanted didn鈥檛 feel good when I got there. I had to take time to refocus.鈥�
Keech, who complemented her psychology degree with a minor in communication, is the founder of Tarah Keech Coaching, which is focused on helping professionals overcome the challenges of insecurity, anxiety and stress that can show up at any point in a career. But she got to where she is, however, she spent time in self-discovery or what she calls 鈥榮elf-coaching.鈥�
鈥淚 decided to change my career focus and work in a corporate environment,鈥� she said. 鈥淚 have been super fortunate to work with some amazing humans. I started doing consulting for Fortune 100 companies helping executives and employees. I learned there were top executives who you would think had it all together, but they were struggling with trying to be top in their profession while managing their families.鈥�
Keech said many of her clients express that they have felt like they are failures in life, especially women who struggle to balance their careers with motherhood and managing a family. And the added stress of the pandemic often takes these feelings to an even higher level.
鈥淲e experience burnout when we鈥檙e doing things for reasons we don鈥檛 like 鈥� out of obligation, resentment and retaliation, or feeling like we鈥檙e not worthy or good enough,鈥� she noted. 鈥淎ny of these reasons can lead us to burnout, because you鈥檙e taking action from a place of depletion or scarcity.鈥�
Keech uses her own experiences to connect and engage with her clients, letting them know she understands their challenges.
鈥淚 remember attending graduate school in Denver, working in academic research and newly married,鈥� she said. 鈥淚 was away from my family for the first time. This experience prepared me to be able to support my clients who are silently struggling with many challenges. Some of them are carrying baggage from past relationships or their childhood. Some are engaging in self-destructive behaviors of substance abuse use, overspending, infidelity, and all the things that some humans can end up doing as ways of trying to cope. My experience gave me an 鈥榓ha moment.鈥� I knew I could help clients through coaching, and my business was born.鈥�
Keech went through several coaching programs to get the additional training she needed. And she went through several more personal burnout moments as well.
鈥淢y experience with burnout was a gift in disguise,鈥� she explained. 鈥淭hat鈥檚 why I love to talk about burnout. All of our emotional experiences are just flags and tools. I believe our brain, body and spirit are wired to help us survive. These are assets letting us know we are growing, and there鈥檚 an opportunity to make a life shift if we can pause and reflect.鈥�
Keech uses burnout as her entry point. Then she helps her clients based on the foundation of burnout recovery.
鈥淚 help them strategize,鈥� she said. 鈥淓specially now, there are even more working parents who are challenged with whether they can be a good mother or father, or a corporate 鈥榬ock star.鈥� I help them figure out how they can make that an equation and not an either-or.鈥�
Keech also credits her educational journey at South Alabama for helping to prepare for her current career.
鈥淪outh鈥檚 faculty members in the psychology department were very service-centered,鈥� she said. 鈥淲hen I think of my role models and mentors there, they helped me to see what was possible. A big part of my success has been because of faculty members like Dr. Jack Shelley-Tremblay, chair of the psychology department, and Professor Emeritus Dr. Elise Labbe-Coldsmith, now retired. She and others taught curiosity and critical thinking. And at that time, it was not just from the chalkboard. They presented the ideas in new and different ways.鈥�
Labbe-Coldsmith remembers Keech as a self-directed student who was enthusiastic about psychology.
鈥淚 am not surprised she鈥檚 doing so well in her chosen career as a coach,鈥� Labbe-Coldsmith said. 鈥淭his is also a good example of how a degree in psychology can lead to an interesting and successful career, especially when paired with a minor or second major such as business or communication.鈥�
Keech still adheres to the advice she gives her clients, including thinking about what鈥檚 next.
鈥淎s an entrepreneur, during the pandemic, I had to pivot my business to mostly online to support my clients,鈥� she said. 鈥淚 learned it鈥檚 ok when you have to shift from one way to another during a crisis. I love my one-on-one coaching program, and a new coaching mentorship program is beginning in June to help leaders become coaches and gain the coaching skills they need. It鈥檚 an exciting time, and I love sharing my work and helping others be their very best.鈥�
5 Tips to Improve Your Well-Being
Tarah Keech, burnout prevention and recovery expert and founder of of Tarah Keech Coaching, offers these tips for dealing with burnout:
- Check-in with yourself by naming the emotion. Once you name what you are feeling, it trains your brain that it鈥檚 safe and survivable to feel the emotion and how you experience it physically.
- Think about what you want. Take time to do some self-discovery. Once you are clear about what you want, this can help you pivot from the emotion of burnout. For example, if you want more free time, you may need to stop answering your email late at night, or plan more free time on your calendar. Once you get clarity, there鈥檚 progress.
- Pay attention to your heart鈥檚 desires. We are given our wants because it鈥檚 part of what we are capable of. If it keeps showing up as a desire or want in your life, don鈥檛 keep pushing that emotion away. This doesn鈥檛 mean you have to rewrite your life, leave college, or your job. You just need to be curious and open about what you want and why you want it.
- Be kind to yourself. Lean into your emotions and don鈥檛 be afraid to truly feel what you are experiencing. By engaging with yourself, you are telling your brain, 鈥淚 want to know what鈥檚 happening, and how I can change it.鈥� By changing course, we are retraining our brain.
- Find things you like about what you are already doing. Pay attention to your dreams. Ask yourself, what are the real values of my thoughts? In what ways are you already experiencing aspects of what you want? The brain wants to be efficient. Be intentional during this experience. It takes effort, but it can be done.
